Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Tango :: Fuck me back...

Okay, I'm up way too early...I had a dream my cell phone was ringing....

First...can I use the word "fuck" in blog-land? Any censors out there?

Here's the deal...I SINCERELY HOPE I DON'T OFFEND ANYONE WITH THIS POST...

I find that the best dances (to me, personally) are when the follower dances with "energy". The best way I have found to describe this is this::

(note my choice of the word fuck, versus "making love", when in reality I am more of a "making love" kinda guy...)

"When I fuck a woman, and she just lays there, it is still very good sex (usually)...BUT, when she doesn't just lay there, and she chooses to meet my energy with her own energy, when she chooses to 'fuck me back'...it can be mindblowinglyunbelievable sex."

Caveat: In my own defense, I haven't been involved with women who don't reciprocate sexually...except for my first ex-wife...she had a tendency to just lay there...I don't/won't go there anymore...life is too short for that...

For me, tango is the same...there are women who just "lay there"...are like a blob of mush or jello....and then there are the women who "tango me back"...and that's when it is really, really good...

But, I think this is very, very difficult for a follower to achieve, and therefore very, very rare...for me personally, I would say one in twenty followers...in my humble experience...

5 comments:

Elizabeth said...

Actually, this is a pretty nice analogy. The first time I "fucked someone back" in tango, was in class and I was feeling the music and sort of gave that back, as an energy in my chest, and I was immediatly rewarded with a wonderful dance. I think leads sometimes need a little hint that you are there. THERE. Not just getting fucked in the passive way. Of course this does not mean backleading, or anticipating...it is just about energy, and difficult to explain. More like making love....

Alex said...

Yes Elizabeth, the more I think about it, the more I think lovemaking is the best analogy for tango. At same time, I am extremely hesitant to say this because some newbies might think tango is all about sex, which it is not of course. But, in lovemaking (I'm speaking in hetero here...), generally the man is the "leader", the woman the "follower", although sometimes the woman may be more passive, sometimes more agressive, and the man may adopt a passive position, or both may be agressive at the same time. And, dare I say it? The woman may actually take the lead a bit.

It is so difficult to verbalize the perfect dance, the perfect connection, the perfect energy...so very difficult.

msHedgehog said...
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msHedgehog said...

I actually like the analogy as a way of explaining energy - an analogy is all it is, but it's a good one.

Alex said...

And here is a follow up post called "Fuck me back revisited"

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